Coffee with Cameron

Volume 6 Issue 30

November 26, 2025

Say No

By Cameron Spencer

Dear Reader, 

I am wishing you and yours a holiday season filled with warmth, coziness, connection, and rejuvenation. Sincerely. The holidays are often viewed – and experienced – as stressful times rife with hustle, culminating in exhaustion. I, for one, am eager for a cultural shift. But, as cultural change does not come about through inaction, I’ve come to realize that if I want this change to happen I have to make it happen in my own life. I know that for me, warmth, coziness, connection, and rejuvenation are not possible during the holidays if I’m running myself ragged to attend every event, create every source of magic, or find every deal available to conquer the holiday gifting as cheap as possible. I’ve learned the hard way that I need flexibility to enjoy the holidays. 

I am learning to say no. No, I will not be able to attend two concurrent events by splitting my time in each place. No, I will not be able to craft a marvelous dish for a work potluck event if I’m crafting a dozen marvelous dishes for a dozen other events. No, I will not be able to camp out outside of the mall Thanksgiving night to make it to the best sales first (if that’s even a thing anymore – I won’t pretend I didn’t give up on that years ago when working retail!). No, I will not go to the holiday party where there are folks attending who have treated me poorly in the past. No. No. No. 

I refuse to end the holidays an exhausted shell of myself, flinging back into normal life on an energy deficit. Sometimes, others get upset, frustrated, or even question why I’m not able to attend. For the latter, I keep my responses simple: I have another commitment. It’s no one else’s business what I am doing or why I can’t attend. Maybe I can’t go because I have to attend another event I’d already RSVP’d to, or maybe it’s because I want some downtime. Maybe it’s because I have a small window of time during that person’s gathering where I can wrap and hide gifts for my kids while they’re out at a sleepover or something; or maybe it’s because I want to prioritize some family time. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, and you do not have to justify decisions you make about your time. 

When it comes to backlash, disappointment, and hurt feelings related to not going to certain events…well, that one has been a little harder for me to navigate, personally. I have had to put in some work to recognize that I’m not responsible for others’ feelings, and to acknowledge that others are allowed to experience their feelings regardless. They can be upset and I can still say no – these are not mutually exclusive, just uncomfortable. I’m not serving my best interests, nor am I acting with integrity, if I show up to events to save face rather than to actually spend time together and celebrate holidays. If I’m not going to be able to immerse myself and engage, if I’m not going to be able to connect and enjoy my time, then I’m robbing others of the connection they wanted with me in the first place when they invited me. 

Another approach I’m leaning into as I try to move away from stressful holiday seasons is celebration and gatherings more often. Distributing joyful, celebratory time for social connection throughout the year allows more of the year to feel special, while removing the stress of a jam-packed season. I think of it sort of like studying: cramming for a test is stressful, exhausting, and intense; studying for a test over a longer span of time with more intentional practice is less stressful, less exhausting, and some studies show leads to better test outcomes! So instead of going to 4 Thanksgivings, 8 Thanksgiving-adjacent events, 10 Christmases, 5 New Year’s celebrations, and waking up January 2^nd feeling completely drained…..maybe I go to 2 Thanksgiving events, 3 Christmases, 1 New Year’s, and host a Mardi Gras gathering, get people together for Easter, plan a Summer Solstice celebration, and have an autumn bonfire instead. Maybe I just build in time throughout the entire year to enjoy life with friends and family, and let the major stress fall to the wayside. 

This is my advice to you as we enter this season: say no. Decline. RSVP no. Prioritize what you want to do with what you can do, and allow yourself to have space for rest. 

Warm Wishes, 

Cam 

The Final Girl: An Ode to The Queen of Horror

Volume 6 Issue 26

October 29, 2025

It’s no surprise that the daughter of the actress who is responsible for one of Hollywood horror’s most iconic and famous scenes is the Queen of Horror. When Janet Leigh crafted that penultimate shower scream performance in Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho in 1960, I highly doubt that she anticipated that her toddler daughter, Jamie, would become the horror icon that she is today. Even so, it’s startlingly fitting, isn’t it? That borne of the woman behind that scream is the Final Girl? 

I find such serendipity in Jamie Lee Curtis’s career: not just because her mother is one of the most well-known faces in horror based on one crucial role, but also because Jamie’s breakout role in John Carpenter’s 1978 Halloween was the blueprint for so much of horror. Though she isn’t the first, Jamie Lee Curtis’s portrayal of Laurie Strode, embedded in Debra Hill’s brilliant writing of the character, cast the mold for all Final Girls to come. Despite the Final Girl trope often touted as played out in modern times, every Final Girl in horror from 1978 onward is directly influenced by Laurie Strode. 

If you are not already familiar, the Final Girl refers to a specific type of character – a trope – in horror, the last girl standing in a slasher film. Originally coined by Carol J. Clover, scholar in Medieval Studies and Film Studies, in 1992, Final Girl describes commonly shared attributes of these last-girls-standing as intelligent, morally superior, and more demure or masculine than their counterparts in the film. Final Girls are headstrong, intelligent, protective, and down-to-earth. They are fighters, survivors, and they retain these qualities against all odds, and in the face of insurmountable trauma. Laurie Strode is not the first portrayal of a Final Girl – so what makes her The Final Girl?

Jamie Lee Curtis. And, to be frank, Debra Hill. The combination of Debra Hill’s writing of the character, combined with Jamie Lee Curtis’s portrayal of her across the franchise films, brings beautiful nuance to Laurie’s character. However, it is Jamie Lee’s interpretation of the character, of the story, and of horror as a genre that elevates Laurie to top-tier influential status. She has always taken horror seriously, even in times whenever the genre was degraded as a trashy form of entertainment. Throughout her career, Jamie Lee Curtis has worked to emphasize the validity of horror as a reputable, artistic genre. Her performances in the Halloween movies canonized Final Girl depictions; but her off-screen explanations of her understandings of Laurie Strode, and of horror as a whole, paved the paths for horror that explores trauma. 

It is not merely one facet of her journey that defines her as The Queen of Horror, it is the unique, complex connections between these facets. As if it was woven into the intricate tapestry of our very universe, Jamie Lee Curtis’s iconic lineage, deeply impactful horror roles, her encouragement of other horror stars like Scream actress Neve Campbell, and her advocacy of the genre itself all converge to adorn her with this deserved title. If November first is the day that Mariah Carey emerges to claim the holiday season, then October first is the day that Jamie Lee Curtis emerges from that tiny closet in Haddonfield to claim and reclaim Halloween. On this, the last week of her season, I celebrate her influence binge-watching horror and engaging in all things spooky. Happy Halloween! 

Volume 6 Issue 21

September 24, 2025

Cameron Spencer’s Guide to the Autumn-est Gilmore Girls Episodes Ever!

By Cameron Spencer

Let’s not mince words here, okay – I’m among the many self-proclaimed fall folk out there. Apple picking, pumpkin patches, football season, fall scents, flavors, and colors, they just soothe my soul like chicken
soup on a sick day. I’m an avid lover of all things spooky, have a tendency to throw on Gilmore Girls at the first hint of a fall breeze (very ‘I Smell Snow’ of me, isn’t it fellow Gilmore Girlies?). In fact, before you’re even reading this, I will have already hosted the annual Autumn Solstice dinner with my family to
celebrate! This year I realized that not everyone in my family has seen Gilmore Girls, and that, my friends, is a problem. So, this autumn, we’re going full throttle into Stars Hollow, and I’m taking you with me! Sit back, grab your favorite cozy blanket, your Harvard sweatshirt, a warm cup of coffee (maybe in a Luke’s
mug), and get ready for Cameron Spencer’s Guide to the Autumn-est Gilmore Girls Episodes Ever!

Obviously, if you’re going with Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life, then ‘Fall’ will be your autumn-est episode, but if you’re watching the classic, original Gilmore Girls series, I’ve got you covered! If you have never seen this series, beware: spoilers ahead!

Season 1, Episode 7: Kiss and Tell
Amid the backdrop of Stars Hollow’s Autumn Festival, and the arguments between Taylor and Luke about décor, Rory shares her first kiss with Dean and navigates telling Lorelai. Also, we get to see Rory and Lane dressed as pilgrims!

Season 2, Episode 4: Road Trip to Harvard
This episode sees Lorelai and Rory leaving Stars Hollow for the weekend after the fallout between Lorelai and Max. Featuring the ever-kooky Cheshire Cat B&B and an alluring, if not near criminal, visit to Harvard, this episode is quintessential Gilmore Girls!

Season 3, Episode 4: One’s Got Class and the Other One Dyes
Luke and Lorelai are invited to speak at Stars Hollow High for Career Day, but Lorelai struggles when she is bombarded with questions about getting pregnant in high school; Lane takes drastic measures while delving into her first foray into the band. All amid haystacks and pumpkins and twinkle lights, in True Gilmore Girls Fashion!

Season 3, Episode 7: They Shoot Gilmores, Don’t They?
Dance. Marathon. Need I say more?

Season 3, Episode 8: Let the Games Begin. After secretly arranging a meeting for Rory at Yale, Richard upsets Lorelai and Rory’s goals begin to shift. This episode is full of autumn charm, old-world decorum, tailgates, and Yale football allure!

Season 3, Episode 9: A Deep-Fried Korean Thanksgiving
Thanksgiving-O-Rama! Lorelai and Rory’s mad dash to multiple Thanksgivings – it may not get more fall than this!

Season 4, Episode 7: The Festival of Living Art
Stars Hollow’s Festival of Living Art, where the townspeople get made up as famous renditions of art pieces and exhibition themselves in a theatrical, cozy display in the town square.

Season 5, Episode 6: Norman Mailer, I’m Pregnant
While Rory is covering the beat on a mysterious Yale club, Lorelai and Sookie are excited to spot Normal Mailer at the Dragonfly. Rife with ridiculousness, humor, and the twinkle lights fall lovers deserve this episode delivers autumnal charm and surprising secrets!

Season 5, Episode 7: You Jump, I Jump, Jack
While I wouldn’t necessarily call this the most fall-centric episode of the season or the series, it’s a classic for the series and a must-see on every rewatch!

Season 5, Episode 10: But Not As Cute As Pushkin
Lorelai’s first fight with her latest boyfriend ensues, while Rory’s hosting of a prospective Yale student ends in an epic failure – but pumpkins and fall foliage abound!

Season 6, Episode 6: Welcome to the Dollhouse
We open with a town meeting, get snippets from the Harvest Festival, and see Richard admit wrongdoing and seek amends with Lorelai RE: What the Heck is Rory Doing?

Season 6, Episode 7: Twenty-One is the Loneliest Number
Rory’s 21st birthday – during her estrangement from Lorelai – while Morey and Babbett prepare for Halloween. A somber reminder that life doesn’t always workout the way you plan for it to, but if you skip on over to S6E9, you’ll get to see Rory and Lorelai move into reconciliation, though episode 9 is admittedly low on the autumnal cheer scores.

Season 7, Episode 6: Go Bulldogs!
Christopher tries a little too hard with the members of the Yale Daily News, but the back-to-school vibes are off the charts! Luke goes on a date with April’s swim coach.

Season 7, Episode 9: Knit, People, Knit!
The Stars Hollow Knit-A-Thon is on, and once again a certain someone tries too hard and ends up ruining things. Is Christopher actually Meredith Grey?

I hope each of you reading is able to find a stormy Sunday afternoon available this autumn to throw on a pot of coffee, freshen the batteries in your twinkle lights, wrap up in a cozy cashmere throw blanket and head into Connecticut via the Netflix route! I’ll meet you under the gazebo with a fiesta burger and chili cheese fries for two.

Summer Sadness & Winter Woes: Navigating the Seasonal Depression Inflection Point

By Cameron Spencer

I can always feel it creeping up on me, that drain-and-strain feeling that saps my energy and plunges my mood lower and lower every day. It’s like a Plecostomus, feeding on my cheerfulness, my energy, my positive disposition, using its powerful suction to strip me of it all. Maybe some of our audience is familiar with this experience: seeing the seasons change and knowing that you’re about to feel heavy, or tense, or exhausted, or irritable, or sad for months on end. If you are like the majority of people who experience Seasonal Affective Disorder, your sinking feeling probably begins sometime in the autumn and weighs on you throughout winter until spring’s reprise. If you’re like me, this pattern is reversed.

As spring stretches into summer, I notice my excitement for the near-future wane. My anxiety spikes, my mood begins to plummet, and I often feel fatigued. The sun shines brightly all day long and I feel the distinct juxtaposition between my gloomy disposition and the environment outdoors. My inflection point
typically comes shortly after the summer equinox, like my own personal, internal equinox blaring the alarms of stress, strain, sadness, and sleepiness. This pattern has been the norm for me for many years, so I’ve had to learn, with the help of my healthcare team, how to prepare for it and how to navigate it whenever it strikes.

Researchers have identified many factors that play a role in Seasonal Affective Disorder, whether it occurs for a person in the winter or the summer. For example, regardless of what season SAD strikes, the shift in the body’s melatonin production and sleep schedules is believed to play a major role. In the summer, the longer days can delay melatonin production, leading many people to stay up later, lose sleep, and struggle to rebalance their sleep routines even after the days begin to shorten. Similarly, in winter, those shorter days and early sunsets can disrupt sleep schedules in the opposite way, causing folks to feel sleepier sooner, ultimately resulting in similar problems related to rebalancing sleep routines.

For some, the darkness of the winter – be it from the earlier nightfall or the colder, often cloudier weather – causes a decrease in the amount of vitamin D they are absorbing and a drop in serotonin production. In addition, the cold weather can be a major deterrent to enjoying the nature and outdoor activities that many people enjoy. On the flipside, heat and humidity can be a significant challenge to these same experiences for folks in the summer. Other environmental and personal factors add to the complicated nature of SAD, as well. For example, winter holidays can cause schedule interruptions at home and at work, leading to a higher demand on a person’s time. Factor in any financial strain, familial tension, school holiday breaks that require alternative childcare methods, or even the bright, cheery décor and expectations of joy, in addition to the winter gloom and you’ve got a recipe for SAD simmering!

For me, the summer’s heat, humidity, and allergens converge into a physical discomfort that puts me in a very foul mood. Who wants to be sweltering, sweaty, sticky, and sniffly all at once?! Whether I stay home with the kids in the summer or pay for childcare, summer comes with stress – the stress of creating magical summers for kids while neglecting my own work responsibilities, the financial stress of either childcare or summer vacation activities planning. All these options and their stresses bog down my already cranky system. Late spring I feel it starting, like the tickle in the back of your throat before a strep infection. Early summer, I’m pouring myself out into as much fun as possible. By early July, I’m begging for the cooler weather to return, the bugs to descend to wherever they go, and for there to be structure in our lives again.

I tend to end up in a situation that goes something like this:
The heat index is 108 degrees, with 67 percent humidity? I think we’ll skip the pool today and hang out indoors. Maybe we can paint or have a movie day! Oh, what’s that you say, wise weather app? The
heat index is 108 for the next TWO WEEKS?! Yeah….I’m not sure how to plan around that. Sprinklers in the
shade, indoor swimming at the Y when it’s available, and lots and lots of popsicles to cure the children’s
angst may be the closest thing to compromise and safe summer fun I can get.

And here it is: my inner equinox, my personal SAD inflection point. The tipping point where I go from grumpy to low, from struggling to depressed. By mid-July, I’m usually becoming quite the hermit to avoid the heat. I turn down friends’ invitations to events, especially if they are outdoors, and try to spend as much time indoors as possible. Guess what else this means? Much like my winter counterparts, I’m not getting much vitamin D or sunshiny serotonin. Cue the cascade of symptoms associated with Seasonal Affective Disorder. Sidebar: Anyone else find the irony in the disorder’s initials spelling out the word ‘sad’? Whew! I’m glad I am not alone!

After several years in this pattern, and much advice from healthcare professionals, I have started being more proactive about my strings of summertime sadness. While my process may not work for everyone, getting proactive about Seasonal Affective Disorder can help reduce its impact on daily life during episodes. I prepare by frontloading outdoor time when it is nice out. In the spring, I spend as much time outside soaking up the warm sunshine and cool breezes and greening leaves as possible! I take time to experience my excitement at nature, and I encourage my family and friends to join me. I also take vitamin D supplements and continue taking them throughout times of the year when I’m less likely to get enough naturally. Some folks also use light therapy to help them absorb vitamin D and feel more alert, winter or summer!

As the weather heats up, I start to focus on indoor activities that I enjoy and carve out intentional time to engage in them. I make effort to read, draw, paint, and cook, and to do exercise that sparks a sense of joyfulness (read: dancing for no reason whenever I want). My aim here isn’t just to experience some happiness, it’s also to create moments where I’m releasing endorphins to boost my overall mood. I ramp up my therapy sessions, too, in anticipation for the need for more support. Some folks also talk with their doctors about anti-depression prescriptions in advance, even if they wind up not needing them, just to have that extra documentation and swift response should their seasonal depression require it. Remember, if you can’t make your own serotonin, store-bought is fine!

Additionally, I try to be extra gentle with myself during these phases. I actively remind myself that I’m not a bad person for feeling down. I do not push myself to overload my calendar with activities and events, even if I feel some guilt for saying no to friends and family. It can be difficult, but I remind myself that
overdoing it never solves problems, it only worsens them. I journal in ways that are beneficial to me, whether it’s a stream-of-consciousness session full of rants, a guided meditation through writing, or a dose of planning for the future just to feel a sense of control.

I’m also open with people I trust about my experiences and find that in doing so I can be understood and accommodated. I do not have to deny every invitation to an event, I can also lean into the discomfort of my own needs and say, ‘hey, I want to connect and enjoy time with you, but it’s too hot for me to do that in an outdoor setting. What if we plan to do something together that’s indoors soon?’ Or throw it back to the days of social distancing and have a FaceTime watch party, or a long-distance Zoom call with friends to catch up. I never expect my loved ones to cancel or alter their existing plans for me, but I’m not ashamed of asking to do something separately that meets my needs. I’m usually pleasantly surprised at how receptive they can be!

Perhaps the most impactful tactic I use in combating seasonal depression is constantly reminding myself that this won’t last forever. When we inch closer to autumn, I pause to have a moment of anticipation. When a cool front moves in, I take advantage of the opportunity to feel the reprieve. If you’re a winter SADer, I imagine the reverse could be helpful: enjoying a February warm front where the highs finally start with 7s instead of 4s; feeling some ‘almost there’ moments when stores start putting out swimwear for summer instead of workout gear for New Year’s Resolutions; realizing the sun is setting after 6 PM for the first time in ages. This won’t last forever. I can get help. I deserve to feel happy. I am not alone. Whatever your brain responds to, let that be your mantra, your reminder that SAD sucks, but you’re stronger than it is.

Volume 6 Issue 13

July 30, 2025

Chaos Incarnate: Back-to-School Season Approaches

By Cameron Spencer

Summer is ending, which for parents and caregivers of school-aged kids means Back-to-School is approaching fast! Whether you’re breathing a sigh of relief for the normalcy of a predictable schedule again, anxious for your little one’s first year of schooling, or ambivalent to this time of year, one thing is for certain: it’s time to prepare for Back-to-School shopping. As someone who is always waiting for the cool relief of autumn’s reprise, a self-proclaimed nerd, and an avid lover of notebooks, planners, and whiteboards, this is one of my favorite times every year. I anticipate the crisp crackling sound of a new notebook, the perfect plastic of a brand-new binder, the joy and excitement of my kids picking new backpacks and novelty pens almost as much as I anticipate my favorite holidays (Halloween and St. Patrick’s Day – weird, I know).

While I understand that not everyone is as enthusiastic about purchasing new school supplies, I also recognize that nearly everyone with kids in K-12 school, and even college, will be in a similar boat during this season: scouring school websites, emails, and stores for supply lists, sales, and tax-free benefits. This year, Oklahoma’s tax-free weekend is August 1st through August 3rd, and it applies specifically to clothing. This means that most clothing and footwear under $100 will be tax free when purchased during this special weekend. Exemptions to this are clothing over $100, clothing designed for specialty purposes, such as sports, and accessories. For more information on when, where, and what is or is not covered visit the Oklahoma Tax Commission website link below:
https://oklahoma.gov/content/dam/ok/en/tax/documents/resources/publications/infographics/SalesTaxHoliday.pdf

Tax-free weekend is a great benefit to helping supply new clothes for your rough-and-tumble growing
children, but what about those pesky school supplies? Many retailers pair sales with tax-free weekend, in anticipation for parents and caregivers out to knock their shopping out all at once. Be on the lookout for sales on items like notebooks, pens, pencils, crayons, markers, backpacks, lunch boxes, tissues, hand sanitizer, erasers, scissors, notebook paper, binders, and more! While I prefer to do my Back-to-School shopping mostly in-person, online retailers often offer sales options that allow great flexibility. With three kids in school, I find it quite advantageous to buy some things in bulk. Typically, I try to buy pencils, tissues, resealable storage bags, hand sanitizer, markers, crayons, erasers, and highlighters in bulk to divvy out between kids – it’s cost effective for my family when I find bulk savings deals, and it reduces the headache of trying to ensure everyone has the right count of items compared to buying individually.
I’m sure many of you are familiar with this headache – one kid’s list requires a 24-count pack of crayons, while another’s list requires a 12-count pack of crayons, but every store in the tri-state area only has 12-packs of glitter crayons or 8-packs of basic crayons at 11 AM on the first day of tax-free weekend. The
early bird gets the crayons, I guess, but so does the shopper buying in bulk to avoid the chaos.

If your school supply lists signify that notebooks and binders should be plain, these are other great items to buy in bulk. Another pro-tip: buy snacks in bulk! Whether you’re searching for snacks your littles can bring with them to school, pack in their lunches, or have for after-school, buying their favorites in bulk can help stave off some of the stress of adapting to new schedules. Sometimes, you can spot deals on other household supplies that may be cost-effective, like paper towels, batteries, or toilet paper. I’m always searching for deals on those pesky lunchbox ice packs during this season, as well. When I’m school shopping, I also tend to get a small cache of individual-use personal supplies for each kiddo to store in an extra pencil bag in their backpacks. For this I buy things like lip balm, hand sanitizer, bandages, travel-size deodorant, tissues, wet wipes, and other personal supplies that may be helpful throughout a busy school day or on the bus.

This time of year, is also a great reminder to my family to care for other important tasks. Before school starts, I like to make sure my car is cleaned out so that it is not only spacious enough for new supplies and school needs but is optimized for our daily use throughout the school year. This major clean out helps me ensure that we have the cars loaded with supplies we need – functioning chargers, school
ID cards, extra clothes and outfits for spills, accidents, and forgetful moments, clean cup holders for morning commutes, and more. Though this work in my family is typically negated before Labor Day, it helps us orient to the start of new schedules and new expectations. If you have any latch-key kids, this is also a great time of year to replace lost or non-functional keys, remind kids of door lock and garage codes, and practice entering and exiting the home safely. also like to use the ramp up to Back-to-School to practice and remind my children of emergency plans, appropriate contact information, and after-school activity and snack options. When they were younger, we would practice their bus numbers
and stop locations, whether they were coming home, staying for after-school care, or going to an after-school alternative location like the YMCA, daycare, or Boys and Girls Club. Now that they come home after school to working parents, it’s reminders about who to contact in an emergency (and, let’s be real: reminders about what constitutes an emergency); reminders about what can and cannot be
used with and without adult supervision (no metal in the microwave; no oven or stove without an adult), and chore expectations. Before the days of my children having their own phones and devices, I would spend some time on a weekend before school adding their district’s days off into my digital calendar. Now, I add those events into my calendar and send calendar invites to each kid to help us all stay on track with the school schedules.

Though I’m not here yet in my own parenting journey, college shopping can be even more complex. Stay vigilant for deals on cosmetics, personal care items, and housewares. Discuss the dorm or apartment set-up with your college-bound young adult to get an idea of what might work best for them. Does their living space have a private shower or a communal one? Are shower shoes, like slide-on sandals a necessity? Will they have access to a kitchen area or will a mini fridge and microwave be a need – and don’t forget to think through food options based on this answer. What sorts of clothing storage will be available, and how can you optimize that for convenience? How can you best protect their tech? Maybe a hardshell laptop case and a sleeve will help ensure they can protect their computer through class commutes; maybe a tablet case with a slot for a stylus will help ensure no pieces of their tech set up get lost or broken.

My hope is that you find this helpful, but ultimately, Back-to-School shopping and prep is mostly about finding and doing what works best for your family. Sometimes, we forego the best deals for time saving and convenience. Sometimes, we delay certain reminders or practices to avoid overwhelming ourselves. Whatever you and yours are doing to get ready for Back-to-School, I trust it’s what is right for your family. One last piece of parting advice that is less practical and more splurge-ical: That cute planner you saw shopping? Buy it. Those fancy snacks you noticed that you want? Get them. That nice water bottle
you could bring to the gym? Make it yours now. The Starbucks you avoided in Target, so you didn’t have to buy Starbucks for the whole family? Go get some just for you. Back-to-School prep is a time-consuming cognitive load for folks caring for kids, treat yourself a little in the process, too.